What makes healthy relationships
It’s been said that happy relationships make us content, and conversely, happy people have the most fulfilling relationships! So, how can we get in on this good thing going? After all, healthy relationships, whether they’re romantic, friendly or with co-workers, are known to make us feel good, improve our wellbeing and reduce stress.
Communication is key
Communication is the cornerstone of every strong relationship. While you may not always agree with your partner, friend or family member, if you have a foundation of respect and clear communication, it is much easier to resolve any conflicts that arise. It’s more than replying to a text message on time! It means establishing a clear line of communication, compassion and empathy with one another.
To foster compassionate communication, try asking that person the following questions: ‘‘How are you feeling today? Is there something I can do to help or support you? What can we do together today that is fun, interesting or good for our wellbeing?’’
By asking such questions, you will both know the boundaries and expectations of the relationship, while being respectful of one another through clear communication. All healthy relationships require boundaries.
Now, consider some questions to ask yourself. ‘‘What are your needs and expectations? How can you put time aside to listen to your friend, partner, colleague or family member without judgement?’’ By having a healthy relationship with yourself, you can build communication skills into all your relationships. This ensures you are equipped to address problems or conflict that may arise.
6 ways to build communication in relationships:
Create a safe space where you can openly talk about your strengths, weaknesses, preferences and pet peeves without any judgement.
Acknowledge when someone does something nice for you, no matter how big or small. It could be doing a chore that you don’t enjoy. Take a moment to reflect and acknowledge it.
Be open and honest about any words or actions that make you feel hurt, stressed or guilty. Avoid blaming the person, instead listen to one another and have a productive conversation that is solution-centred.
Make eye contact when speaking. It promotes trust, develops your connection and shows that the other person has your full attention.
Rephrase what’s being said to ensure you understand each other’s perspective. Differences in view and character can lead to endless disagreements. Confirm you are both on the same page and understand the matter at hand.
Acknowledge that you both may never agree on the issue and so you may have to create a productive solution that supports the relationship. Is one person willing to compromise or can you agree on a way that one person isn’t carrying the entire burden of the problem?
Through practice and over time, you can create healthy relationship habits that help you survive even the toughest times. It’s not just romantic relationships - friendships, work relationships and those with family all require effort. While it may seem exhausting, the rewards will prove invigorating.
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